Should you tell people your goals?

I ran into a TED video last night about telling people your goals. It’s a very short video, worth looking at before you read the rest of this post.

So Sivers claims that we should keep our goals to ourselves. When we tell someone else our goals, they often give us approval and praise right away just for setting the goal. The boost we get from this can actually discourage us from pursuing the goal. We have already gotten the reward.

This idea annoyed me a bit, because it did make some sense. I can think of goals I’ve set for myself recently where I did talk to people about the goal early on. They were suitably impressed and stroked me for just stating the goal. And so far, I have not gotten very far attaining those goals. But the real reason this annoyed me is that it flies in the face of other research too.

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